Walk on the Wild Side of Work

Let’s find you some strength, when “Karen” walks in and starts her usual rant again…

They say you can’t choose your family, but you can choose your friends. Unfortunately, that doesn’t apply to colleagues – and, boy, do we spend a lot of time with them!

Have you ever relied on someone at work who just… doesn’t get it? Like watching a lion and a deer try to form a committee. You can guess the outcome – and it’s not pretty.

The Jungle of Workplace Dynamics

Think of the workplace as a jungle. You’ve got your lions, your deer, and every creature in between. In theory, we all have a role to play. The lion represents those natural leaders who dominate, the deer are the ones who prefer to avoid confrontation, and then there are everyone else – foxes, owls, even a few cats who never seem to pay attention. And while it sounds like an interesting ecosystem, when you depend on each other for survival – or, in our case, for success – things can get… intense.

It’s all well and good when people “get along,” but when personalities clash, productivity takes a dive. And that’s where it gets tricky. Henry believes he’s always right, Karen bristles at being told what to do, and there you are, watching deadlines slip by and feeling your blood pressure rise. It’s like putting predators and prey into the same enclosure and hoping for harmony.

Understanding Your "Work Ecosystem"

In every office, there’s that one person – or two or three – who you wouldn’t naturally gravitate toward. You may respect them as people, but as professionals? Not so much. And let’s face it: no one wants to constantly be on edge or feel like they’re walking on eggshells. The stakes are too high. So, how do you thrive in this unpredictable ecosystem?

Let’s start with three guiding principles:

1. Know the Animal You’re Dealing With

Start by understanding your colleagues' styles and motivations. Just as lions hunt differently from foxes, people work and think differently based on their strengths and comfort zones. Maybe Henry is a “lion” because he thrives on control and decision-making, and Karen, the “deer,” feels more comfortable in a predictable routine. Try not to judge but rather understand. Knowing who they are (and what they bring to the table) can help you set realistic expectations and anticipate their needs and behaviours.

2. Set Clear Boundaries for Peaceful Coexistence

 Just as in nature, boundaries can prevent unwanted skirmishes. Decide early on what behaviour you will and won’t tolerate, and communicate it – diplomatically. Perhaps Henry’s tendency to interrupt isn’t personal but rather a reflection of his own need to be heard. Gently setting boundaries can help prevent frustration on both sides and help you focus on the actual work. If you’re not comfortable setting boundaries directly, let metrics and KPIs guide interactions. Think of it as the territory line that keeps everyone in their respective zones.

3. Channel Conflict Into Constructive Action

 Conflict isn’t always a bad thing. When managed well, it can drive innovation and motivate growth. But if it’s just noise, it’s time to take a new approach. Next time Karen resists feedback, instead of pushing harder, ask yourself (and her) how she prefers to receive input. The goal is mutual respect, not changing someone’s core behaviour. And if that’s not achievable, remember: you have the right to put yourself first. Bullies, those who drain your energy or block your progress – you’re under no obligation to bend over backward. If the jungle becomes unbearable, it’s time to consider whether a new path might be better for your well-being.

The Bigger Picture – Metrics that Matter

Here’s a hard truth: Many companies lack metrics to track the human side of work. We often measure revenue and throw in an EPS for good measure, but overlook how team dynamics impact those numbers. Without clear accountability and tools for measuring collaboration, companies essentially turn a blind eye to the critical role people play. Imagine trying to survive in a jungle where no one knows what role they’re playing – chaos, right? It’s time to focus on metrics that align people’s natural strengths with the company’s goals, creating an environment where everyone can contribute meaningfully without constantly stepping on each other’s toes.

Just as we can’t choose our family, we can’t always choose our colleagues – but we can choose how to manage those relationships. Whether you’re stuck in a room with a lion, a deer, or a stubborn Henry, you’re not powerless. Remember to assess your “work ecosystem,” set your boundaries, and channel conflict constructively.

So, the next time you’re sitting across from someone who’s not exactly your cup of tea, take a step back. Acknowledge the jungle around you, sharpen your understanding of those you work with, and be prepared to move forward with purpose. Because, while you can’t always choose who you work with, you are in complete control of your response, your emotions and the state you let them put you in.